A Good Fit

A good fit between you and the therapist is often more important than the type of therapy and techniques used. Many studies show it’s the biggest predictor of success.


So what does a good fit look like? It usually involves mutual respect, support, and trust.


  • Mutual respect— The therapist respects your right to make your own decisions in therapy; and you think positively about the therapist’s knowledge.


  • Support— You can sense the support of the therapist and you work towards your goals as a team.


  • Trust— You feel safe knowing your conversations are bound by rules of confidentiality and that any feedback you get will be appropriate and nonjudgmental.


These are some of the critical ingredients that you can be looking for in a positive therapeutic alliance—also known as “a good fit”.  Even when life feels rocky, therapy may help you find smoother moments both in the therapy space, and outside it.




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Feeling Comfortable in Therapy

You may be reluctant to see a therapist because you aren’t sure if you will feel comfortable. That is a natural concern. Most people considering therapy are in a vulnerable state—something is bothering them, upsetting them, or causing them distress. It might be the first time you have spoken about your issue to anyone. Maybe you were raised in a family that discouraged talking about emotional issues even within the family. Or perhaps your family discourages talking about problems outside of the family, which can make your decision to come to therapy, a tough one.


The therapists at NSTN are attuned to all of these possibilities and the importance of creating a caring, nonjudgmental space. They extend warmth and compassion and help you ease into sharing at a pace and degree that is right for you.